美国小孩12岁之前须掌握的25种基本礼节

檩子语：很多和美国人打过交道的中国人都会觉得，美国人有一套基本的礼节和行事规则，他们很少说出来，但每个人都在严格遵守。也许这就是一种叫作“文化”的东西，一个社会的隐形规则。这些规则，美国孩子们从小就要开始做到。比如，尽量地找出别人值得称赞的地方，避免谈负面的东西，看上去似乎有些“虚伪”，但却是人际之间和谐相处的必要的润滑剂。下面这25条，是美国著名网站 about.com 总结出来的25条儿童从小要学的礼仪，这些礼仪，一个普通的美国妈妈会一天到晚放在口上，反复提醒子女，直到孩子已经把这些当作习惯，很自然地就能做到为止。其中有不少条，其实也挺适合中国孩子的，和大家分享。

1. When asking for something, say "Please."

希望别人帮拿什么东西，说“请”

2. When receiving something, say "thank you."

拿到东西时，说“谢谢”

3. Don't interrrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.
除非有紧急情况，否则不要打断大人们的交谈。大人谈完话后会把注意力转向你。

4. If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase"excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.

当你需要他人马上注意到你，最礼貌的短语是“Excuse me” （对不起，打扰了）

5. When you have any doubt doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.

当你不确信某件事情可不可以做，先问许可。这样可以避免后面很长时间的后悔。

6. The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.

世人对你不喜欢什么并不感兴趣。将负面想法留给自己或你的朋友，不要向大人们诉苦。

7. Don't comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of cuourse, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.

不要评论他人的外表，当然除非是好评，好评总受欢迎。

8. When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.

当别人向你问好，回答他们，并向他们问好。

9. when you have spent time at your friend's house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.

当你到朋友家玩时，记住对你朋友的父母表示感谢，谢谢他们邀请了你，给你了一段好时光。

10. Knock on closed doors - and wait to see if there's a response - before entering.
门若是关着的，请敲门，看看有没有人答复，再进去。

11. When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
当你打电话时，先介绍自己，然后问可否与你要通话的人交谈。

12. Be appreciative and say “thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.
收到任何礼物，都要感恩，并说“谢谢”。在有电子邮件的年代，手写的“感谢卡”尤显珍贵。

13. Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.
在大人面前绝不可以说粗话。大人了解这些脏话，他们觉得脏话沉闷又粗鲁。

14. Don't call people mean names.
不要给人起低劣的绰号。

15. Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
不要因任何原因取笑任何人。取笑人表明你很软弱，与别人合伙来欺负人是很残忍的事。

16. Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.
若一次表演或会议很枯燥，仍然要安静地坐着，让人感觉你是感兴趣的。要知道，表演者和演讲者都在尽全力。

17. If you bump into somebody, immediatly say "excuse me."
若不小心碰撞到别人，立即说 “Excuse me " (对不起）

18. Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.
咳嗽或打喷嚏时，请遮住嘴。不要在公众场合挖鼻孔。

19. As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.
当你穿走门道时，看看你能否为他人扶门。

20. If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, as if you can help. If they say‘yes"，do so - you may learn something new.
你父母、老师或邻居在做事情时，若你经过，询问是否可以帮助他们，若他们说“可以”，你去帮助他们 - 你也许能学到一些新东西。

21. When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.
大人请你帮忙时，带着微笑毫无怨言地去做。

22. When someone helps you, say "thank you". That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!
当别人帮助你时，说“谢谢”。帮助你的人会更愿意再帮助你，尤其是对老师而言。

23. Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.

正确地使用餐具。若不太确信如何使用，问你父母，让他们教你，或观察其他大人是如何使用的。

24. Keep a napkin on you lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.

用餐时，将餐巾纸放腿上，需要时用纸巾擦嘴。

25. Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.
用餐时，不要伸出手去拿桌上离你远的东西；请别人将食物传给你。

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